All of us know that there exist 5 senses to access reality: sight, hearing, touch, olfaction, taste. But lot of people still ignore that we tend to use primarily one in order to process our personal experience.
Even if sight is the most important sense for common living, each person subjectively got one preferred modality to organize his inner world. Thought some people describe their inner world using mostly images, some other rely on inner dialogue or feelings. This doesn't mean they don't make any use of the other two senses, but they employ the other two senses to a lesser extent.
And how is this related to improving my communication? If you want to be an effective communicator, you should recognize and adapt to the preferred perceptive modality of the person you are talking to. This way you can talk more significant to her.
Exactly what do you mean?For example, if you're speaking right now with a visual person, you should be adopting a visual-related language. That let you two swim in the same perceptive world. Language has evocative power. When you say a word your mind automatically depicts that meaning into your head. But what if you say "screeching", do you depict that? or rather you listen it into your head? As you understand, a visual word recalls an image, while an auditory one recalls a sound. What about "fear"? This one can only recall an emotion. So that what adapting to your interlocutor mode means: use words that he recalls very well.
Basically, when you speak with someone else, you should try to get to know on which sense he mainly relies to organize his inner perception. This allows you to express in a far more powerful and significant way to him. For instance you are talking with a visual person, and you choose to adopt a visual vocabulary, you get better results.
"I see I bright future for you", are typical of a visual individual.
Phrases like: "This sounds pretty good", "There's a good synthony", happen to be often choosen by people who redilect the sense of hearness.
A kinesthetic instead, will probably make good use of such expressions: "That's a pretty solid argument", "I catched your idea", "Slip out of my life!"
That just can't be easy, because it's not something that you can understand by reading a book. You got to practice that with people. We are all different: everybody has his own way of interpreting and figuring out sentences. I think that perceptive modalities are a mean to understand people rather than a way to label them. Think of your goal as understanding the more you can about people you interact with and you'll be on your way to communicate
effectively...
Even if sight is the most important sense for common living, each person subjectively got one preferred modality to organize his inner world. Thought some people describe their inner world using mostly images, some other rely on inner dialogue or feelings. This doesn't mean they don't make any use of the other two senses, but they employ the other two senses to a lesser extent.
And how is this related to improving my communication? If you want to be an effective communicator, you should recognize and adapt to the preferred perceptive modality of the person you are talking to. This way you can talk more significant to her.
Exactly what do you mean?For example, if you're speaking right now with a visual person, you should be adopting a visual-related language. That let you two swim in the same perceptive world. Language has evocative power. When you say a word your mind automatically depicts that meaning into your head. But what if you say "screeching", do you depict that? or rather you listen it into your head? As you understand, a visual word recalls an image, while an auditory one recalls a sound. What about "fear"? This one can only recall an emotion. So that what adapting to your interlocutor mode means: use words that he recalls very well.
Basically, when you speak with someone else, you should try to get to know on which sense he mainly relies to organize his inner perception. This allows you to express in a far more powerful and significant way to him. For instance you are talking with a visual person, and you choose to adopt a visual vocabulary, you get better results.
"I see I bright future for you", are typical of a visual individual.
Phrases like: "This sounds pretty good", "There's a good synthony", happen to be often choosen by people who redilect the sense of hearness.
A kinesthetic instead, will probably make good use of such expressions: "That's a pretty solid argument", "I catched your idea", "Slip out of my life!"
That just can't be easy, because it's not something that you can understand by reading a book. You got to practice that with people. We are all different: everybody has his own way of interpreting and figuring out sentences. I think that perceptive modalities are a mean to understand people rather than a way to label them. Think of your goal as understanding the more you can about people you interact with and you'll be on your way to communicate
effectively...
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